Heck, you don't even have to be bisexual.
You have no idea how many times I've heard a woman say something like, "I wouldn't like reading f/f for one very simple reason: I am a straight woman."
To which I usually reply, "Not necessarily."
Now let me be clear: I'm not challenging anyone's degree of straightness, but rather the assumption that heterosexual women don't or can't get turned on by f/f erotic material. I mean, you might be straight as an arrow, straight as a ruler, straight as the shortest distance between two points, but you can't really be sure that reading about two chicks kissing won't turn you on unless you actually try reading it.
Lots of women get hot over images of female/female sexuality, and the fact that they do doesn't remotely mean they're lesbians, or even bisexual--any more than me enjoying the occasional gay erotic romance (or writing one, lol) makes me a gay man.
So how is it that even ramrod straight women can enjoy lesbian erotica, when straight men get all wigged out by gay porn, you ask? Well, that's because men's brains and women's brains are fundamentally different in the way they handle erotic stimuli and generate sexual arousal. Way back in 2003, researchers at Northwestern University measured the arousal patterns in a bunch of straight and gay men and women, and came up with some interesting results:
Male arousal is irrevocably linked to sexual orientation--that is, gay guys are aroused by images of men, whether in m/m or m/f material, straight guys are aroused by images of women, whether f/f or m/f. But women--lesbian, straight or anywhere in between--became aroused by erotic material regardless of the gender/sexual orientation of the images.
I feel kinda sorry for men, now, in that they are so limited in what turns them on. Lucky us--we women think pretty much everything is hot.
So why aren't more straight women seeking out f/f erotic material? In my adventures on the intertubes, I have come across a variety of reasons:
1) "It's just meh."
2) "If I enjoy lesbian porn, it means I must be a lesbian."
3) "If I enjoy lesbian porn, other people will think I'm a lesbian."
4) "Girl parts are gross. I know this because Summer's Eve products tell me so."
5) "I've seen some 'lesbian porn', and it was stupid."
6) "The stories don't appeal to me."
7) "It's against my/society's morals/religion."
8) "It's taboo."
9) "It hits too close to home--when it's m/m, I can keep myself one step apart, outside the action, but with f/f, I feel too close to it for comfort."
10) "When I was younger, this butch lesbian hit on me and I was offended and uncomfortable."
To which I reply:
1) Fair enough, I guess, although perhaps the one story you tried was a "meh" story by a "meh" author.
3) Maybe, but that doesn't have to be your problem.
4) Men don't have a monopoly on misogyny, I guess. And if girl parts are so icky, how fair is it to ask a man to...you know? Ganders and gooses and all.
5) Most "lesbian porn" is produced by men for men. And therefore, not only a veritable cornucopia of breast implants, frosted highlights and two inch long fingernails (ouch!), but also frequently lame and unrealistic.
6) Fair enough. I often have that problem myself, and not just with f/f and f/f/m.
7) Well, so are a lot of things people enjoy reading. You think your church group wouldn't raise its collective eyebrow if they discovered you gobble up erotic romance novels like popcorn? In for a penny, in for a pound, I say.
8) Yeah, it is, kinda. Ain't it great?
9) And for me, that's the best thing about it.
10) Women get aroused by the idea of lots of things they would never want to try in real life. Getting turned on by this:
Or even this:
...simply means you are no different from countless other women out there, of all sexual orientations, who like looking at sexy pictures.
This blog is about women giving themselves permission to like what they like--even if it's the idea of another woman naked.