Daisuki
by Hildred Billings
Sep. 24, 2012 Lesbian/Asian/Contemporary/Polyamory
Words: 45.8 K
Two Japanese women attempt to balance their
relationship with their society's rigid gender roles, polyamorous
relations, and the inability to say "I love you."
I got this book for several reasons. I've lived in Japan,
use to speak Japanese fluently and I still have a deep love for the country and
culture. I've also really craved reading a Japanese lesbian love story, which
is very rare. So it was a no-brainer to read this.
Generally I liked the book. However, I had some issues with
it that to be honest are more about personal taste than actual technical issues
with the book/story itself.
Aiko is a character that I liked a lot and sympathized with.
She's simply in love with Reina and in some way subjugates her own desires regularly
to be with Reina due to the fact that Reina is the only one she wants.
Reina came across as too callous for me. I didn't like her
from the get-go because she acts so indifferent to Aiko and Aiko’s feelings in
many ways. And although she goes through something towards the end of the book
that causes her to reflect on who she is and what's she's doing, I never did
warm up to her and I almost DNF’d the book due to her.
The interesting thing about this relationship is that the
story starts after they've been together for 20 years already. Intriguing, but
also something that made me logically think about the issues they are going
through as a couple. Clearly they are not a new couple. Nor are they young.
However, this story read as something a younger, in age and length of time
together, couple would go through or how they would act. After 20 years I'd
probably expect more maturity and self-knowledge about who they are as a couple
and themselves as individuals. But further on that in a bit.
They have a long history of having multiple partners. Sometimes
within the relationship and sometimes outside on their own without each other.
Reina does this as she pleases, but it seems Aiko goes along with it more to
please Reina or as a reaction to Reina doing it. It is clear that they do love
each other though. Kind of like that couple that sticks together and people
don't get why.
Although it's clear in the extended description of the story that both Aiko and Reina are having conflicts about lack of commitment and I was forewarned, I’m not too fond of the sleeping around within a committed
couple story when both parties are not part of the equation. I don’t get being
with someone for 20 years while sleeping with all kinds of people outside of
the relationship. What’s the point of
that relationship then? Who would want to spend 20 years with someone who could take you or leave you for the night?
I’m fine with polyamory relationships and I don’t have issue
with them if all parties are committed all to each other. But these two came across more as
roommates with benefits and less as a committed couple who actually care about
how their individual actions affect the other. The only thing that mitigated
that for me, barely, is that they are both in agreement of it.
One of the things that I found curious in a sort of
"what the hell?" way, was that Reina starts wondering about her
gender identity. It seemed to only come from the fact that people viewed her as
masculine looking and that she and Aiko have traditional male/female roles within
the relationship as lesbians in a herteronormative world and in a strong patriarchal Japanese culture instead of it coming from something more internal an inherent
to her being.
It bothered me because they’ve lived like that for so long
and suddenly gender identity is an issue. And it really only comes to the forefront
because of an incident with a man’s judgment of Reina as a woman who looks
mannish.
That said, I think it’s an interesting subject to explore.
Many of the lesbian “romance” I’ve read has portrayed a butch/femme
relationship and none of them have broached the idea of questioning gender
identity and exploring that within a relationship.
I see that the author has written several more books with
the continuation or more parts to Aiko and Reina’s story. However, it felt
like I entered the middle of something that didn’t have enough of a beginning
to explain who they are and or an ending that completes it other than they
might become a more committed couple. Maybe the next few will go into Reina
having a sex change, which might be interesting. But the relationship dynamics
represented in this story doesn’t make it appealing for me to read more.
Aside from musings above, I really, really loved the
sprinkling of Japanese throughout the book. I suspect many readers who don’t
know any Japanese might find it tedious or gloss over it. But it did add to any
enjoyment I had reading the book.
I think this book could appeal to a lot of readers due to
subject matter. Unfortunately it just didn’t spark enough in me to read more. I
would, however try another of this author’s books if it’s not about Reina and
Aiko or about lesbians who just fuck around with every other lesbian, which I’m so
tired of reading and which seems to be common in lesbian books.
Heat Level: 3 it's touted as an erotic story but I didn't find it too graphic.
Rating: It was OK
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